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Born to Be a Star

Did you ever wonder, “Why is this happening to me?” When we face obstacles or challenges, we assume they are random events we did not invite into our lives. The truth is, we did invite these difficulties, and we are meant to experience them. Why? Because our lives are just like movies, and good movies aren’t good unless there are conflicts to overcome, or problems to solve. Otherwise they’d be really boring to watch. You are the star of your own movie. You are also the director and the writer. You create everything in your existence. You decide if the scenes will be full of drama or humor in how you react to your own script. If you don’t like how your life is progressing, you can change the ending. How? Take action.

A good movie is unpredictable. So if you can learn to shift your perspective and think of your life as if it were a movie, you might start to appreciate those unexpected challenges. When something “goes wrong,” ask yourself the following questions - What did your character learn from that experience? What was the purpose of that scene? How did it affect the rest of the story of your life? – We are meant to experience ups and downs in order to grow and evolve. Reflect on your life’s journey so far and decide which actions your character should take next.

Be the hero of your movie, not the villain. The hero makes things happen rather than waiting for things to happen to them. They are inspiring and take the initiative. You are the main character of your life. So if you want that new career, or romance, or whatever it is you crave, go out there and get it. But make sure all your actions are performed with positivity and love, because it’s easy to slip into the villainous role, even with just a few negative thoughts. Self doubt or even putting yourself down can sabotage your character. Always stay positive, and you will attract other positive characters.

Think of the people in your life like a supporting cast and crew. They are all there to help you learn your lessons in life, and you in return are also helping them on their journeys. Everyone has a sidekick, a love interest, and an antagonist. All these characters assist us in developing our role in this story.

Once you start thinking of your life as a movie, you can have fun with it. Give yourself your own soundtrack. What song should be playing when you wake up in the morning, or walk down the street, or drive your car? Music sets a tone. Think of the moments in your life, both the good times and bad, and attach a specific song to the replay. How does it change the way you view that time in your life? If you don’t like the emotions attached to the memory, add a song that counteracts the feelings that arise and see if it helps you detach from the past. We are not meant to live in the past, we are meant to learn from it. But many of us stay stuck in our emotions connected to past events when the current script is asking us to be present in the scene. What is your song right now? You are also the sound editor. You have complete power over every single aspect of this production. Do you want a joyful life? Play a joyful song in your head while you brush your teeth in the morning. Is this a musical? Break out into a full on Fosse dance routine while you do laundry.

Every scene in your life serves a purpose to further the story. Learn how to move forward after each lesson is processed. We’ve all made mistakes, they are the bloopers of our lives. If you can laugh at your past and accept that you are human and errors are part of evolution, then you can resolve to do better on the next take. Since you’re the director of this film, you can do as many retakes as you wish until you feel you’ve done your best. Don’t be too harsh in judging your performance though because we aren’t perfect beings and perfection is not our goal. What is the goal, or motivation, you ask? Helping our heroine (you) evolve while she learns lessons about love, compassion and forgiveness. And also experiencing magical movie moments of joy along the way.

As Kermit the Frog and his friends sing in the closing number of The Muppet Movie, “Life’s like a movie, write your own ending. Keep believing, keep pretending. We’ve done just what we set out to do. Thanks to the lovers, the dreamers, and you.”

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