The Good, the Bad, and the Lesson


Every day we make choices. Each choice either points us in the direction of our soul’s purpose, or takes us off the designated path. Every choice has a consequence, and a lesson. How do we know we are on the right path? What happens when we take a detour? Let’s talk about it.


Every single day we walk in the direction of love or fear. Every choice we make, every word we speak, every action we take positively or negatively affects our well being and our purpose here on earth. We all have a reason why we are here at this precise moment in time. Our souls are on a mission to learn lessons about love, compassion, and forgiveness. There are many ways in which we can learn these lessons, and most of us tend to choose to learn them the hard way.


We have preconceived notions about the words ‘good’ and ‘bad’ when it comes to life experiences. What if the ‘bad’ thing that happened was the best thing that ever happened to you, but you don’t know it yet? The job you lost, the plane you missed, the date that stood you up? Not getting what you want may be a blessing in disguise, or a lesson in disguise, because your soul has another path it wants to reveal in its own time. Winning the lottery seems like a ‘good’ thing, but there are plenty of stories of greed, theft, abuse, bankruptcy, and even murder with those who admit they wished they never played the numbers at all.


You know you are following your soul’s purpose when the choices you make on a daily basis actually feel right in that moment. The good choices empower your spirit. Let’s replace the word ‘good’ with ‘love.’ Loving choices energize you and give you all those goose bumps and tingles on your skin and in your gut. The bad choices drain your power. Again, let’s replace the word ‘bad’ with ‘fear.’ Choices made from fear give us feelings of guilt, regret, remorse, and anxiety. Even at the grocery store, we make choices based on love or fear. Choosing the avocado over the glazed donut is a loving choice, because one of those foods enhances our power, and the other drains our power. One of those choices invites a healthy well being, while the other invites the potential for disease.


We feel blissful when we make loving choices that keep us on the path our souls designed for us. We feel depressed when we make fearful choices that take us off the path. Any time I’ve ever felt depression seep into my being, I knew I was not doing what I was supposed to be doing – choosing love instead of fear. An argument with a friend, a self-sabotaging negative thought, working at a job I didn’t enjoy but I convinced myself I needed the money so I put up with the disturbing environment – these are examples of choosing fear instead of love.


Let’s return to that grocery store. The avocado is in your cart. Well done! But as you make your way to the cashier, you see another person also ready to check out. You have a choice here. You can aggressively push your cart ahead of theirs, or offer to let them go first. This may sound like a very insignificant scenario, and not feel like a life altering decision such as whether to take a new job or marry a particular person, but every single choice in life affects you, your fellow human being, and the world at large. It has to do with the Butterfly Effect. Small things have an impact on complex systems within the universe. That includes how every action you take affects your own system, including what you put in your body, or negative self talk.


Synchronicity begins to happen when we are fully aligned with our soul’s purpose. That’s when we encounter the ‘right’ people at the ‘right’ time and everything seems to fall into place with jobs, relationships, and opportunities both big and small. That’s when your cart is filled with avocados, and the other customers offer to let you cut ahead of them on the check-out line, and the teenage cashier calls you ‘Miss’ instead of ‘Ma’am,’ and you feel so damn good that you want to hold the door open for someone, which makes them feel respected, seen and loved.


How do you know if you are on the right path? If your actions and thoughts make your heart sing, you are making choices based on love. If you are suffering in any way and consumed by negativity, you are making choices based on fear. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. Reflect on the lessons you learned from those experiences and how they enhanced the growth of your soul. Then find nurturing ways to heal your wounds, and begin anew today by choosing good things to feed your soul.